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Although I grew up in

The past week has been a roller coaster of emotion… who knew that an intensive Chinese learning program like DSIC could offer such a multi-faceted education?
Learning Chinese itself continues to grow easier as I become accustomed to the program. With three weeks under my belt, I have improved drastically and become more or less fluent in the language. Furthermore, I have established a routine that allows me to memorize characters without any problem.
In all, this program is a lot easier than I expected it to be. Back at Yale, our teachers were extremely nitpicky and their grading was brutal. Liang laoshi and Zhang laoshi took off a point for any small mistake, whether it was a missed stroke or messy handwriting. Here, I could make twelve mistakes and still end up with a 96. It’s actually kind of ridiculous. Knock on wood though, this upcoming week is going to be hell with our cumulative midterm and all.
All Chinese aside, I have experienced difficulties in the social aspect of this program. On the first day of DSIC, a cute Korean girl caught my eye. With the help of my roommate and her friends, I finally worked up the courage to invite her over to study and hang out. One fateful night, we went out to Sanlitur together and ended up dancing and cuddling. After that outing, we grew even closer. Although I never asked her out officially, there was a sense of closeness and entitlement that only comes with being in a relationship.
It has been a week already, and now I am having self-doubts about this whole situation. Soo is the nicest, most genuine girl that I have ever met, and my feelings towards her are tender and pure. Unfortunately, I don’t know if I like her enough to actually be in a long-term relationship with her. I don’t want just any summer fling, because hurting Soo is the last thing that I want to do. I love this girl, but I just don’t feel romantically inclined towards her. Now I’m in a predicament, because I want to make it clear that I don’t want to “break up” with her but that I also don’t want to go too far before shit hits the fan. I won’t disclose too much because this is a private matter between myself and Soo. Hopefully things work out between us so that we can stay good friends in the long run.